Last August we celebrated our 15th anniversary and I took a little photo walk down memory lane while sharing 15 Tips to Building a Stronger Marriage. It is a great read if I do say so myself plus you also see the much younger, much thinner versions of the two of us!
Since it is the month of love, today I’m sharing a little simpler post using a fun acrostic instead!
Kiss a bunch! It’s amazing what just making sure to have that personal show of affection every day can do for a relationship.
There’s no I in team! Remembering always you and your spouse are on the same team is huge. Sure, there will be times when one team member has to pick up the slack and other times you want to give up because you feel like there are more losses than wins. Outside pressure and tension from “real” life can really build up and create some friction. Learning to argue in a respectful manner and always remembering you are, after all, on the same team working towards the same goals makes a huge difference.
Send sweet messages! If you have been around here long then you already know we started our marriage living in different towns. We got into a habit of sending each other messages here and there throughout the day and just the little notion that Keith had me on his mind during the day made me feel so special. We do not send nearly as many messages as we use to but you can bet when I receive that text asking how my day is going I am smiling from ear to ear.
Save it for Jesus! Y’all, there are times when marriage can be so hard and my initial response is to want to be in control. Enter my hot head and sometimes my untamed tongue and next thing you know I am being judgmental and citing every “wrong” thing Keith has ever done. These times are when it’s best to take some quiet time for myself and spend some time praying over my marriage. Praying for my own heart and for Keith. There should be no record of wrongs and plenty of grace.
Say I love you! Yes, we obviously know we love each other or we would not be here but reinforcing that love every day by saying the words is so powerful.
Don’t waste fun! Learn to laugh at yourself, stop and smell the roses every once in awhile and learn to let go a little. Make a conscious choice to do something your spouse loves to do and don’t just be physically present.
Go on dates! Time away from the kids and even the house can really give you some time together to remember all the reasons you first fell for each other to begin with. It is so hard when kids are little to break away and even harder when they are a little older and involved in a bajillion activities but it is so worth it to take the time to reconnect. Dates do not have to be extravagant, they just need to be a time you can focus on one another and not be distracted.
I asked Keith if he wanted to give any advice and he said “don’t snore and show your boobs more”. Ha! If only we life could be as simple for women as it is for men.