Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Working to Keep the Home Fires Burning

Last August we celebrated our 15th anniversary and I took a little photo walk down memory lane while sharing 15 Tips to Building a Stronger Marriage.   It is a great read if I do say so myself plus you also see the much younger, much thinner versions of the two of us!  

Since it is the month of love, today I'm sharing a little simpler post using a fun acrostic instead!  
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Kiss a bunch!  It's amazing what just making sure to have that personal show of affection every day can do for a relationship.  Just in case you love to know the facts about kissing, we happened to receive this through our Texas A&M Today news MWAH! Valentine's Facts About Kissing

There's no I in team!  Remembering always you and your spouse are on the same team is huge.  Sure, there will be times when one team member has to pick up the slack and other times you want to give up because you feel like there are more losses than wins.  Outside pressure and tension from "real" life can really build up and create some friction.  Learning to argue in a respectful manner and always remembering you are, after all, on the same team working towards the same goals makes a huge difference.  

Send sweet messages!  If you have been around here long then you already know we started our marriage living in different towns. We got into a habit of sending each other messages here and there throughout the day and just the little notion that Keith had me on his mind during the day made me feel so special.  We do not send nearly as many messages as we use to but you can bet when I receive that text asking how my day is going I am smiling from ear to ear.

Save it for Jesus!  Y'all, there are times when marriage can be so hard and my initial response is to want to be in control.  Enter my hot head and sometimes my untamed tongue and next thing you know I am being judgmental and citing every "wrong" thing Keith has ever done.  These times are when it's best to take some quiet time for myself and spend some time praying over my marriage. Praying for my own heart and for Keith.  There should be no record of wrongs and plenty of grace.  

Say I love you!  Yes, we obviously know we love each other or we would not be here but reinforcing that love every day by saying the words is so powerful.  

Don't waste fun!  Learn to laugh at yourself, stop and smell the roses every once in awhile and learn to let go a little.  Make a conscious choice to do something your spouse loves to do and don't just be physically present.  

Go on dates!  Time away from the kids and even the house can really give you some time together to remember all the reasons you first fell for each other to begin with.  It is so hard when kids are little to break away and even harder when they are a little older and involved in a bajillion activities but it is so worth it to take the time to reconnect.  Dates do not have to be extravagant, they just need to be a time you can focus on one another and not be distracted. 

I asked Keith if he wanted to give any advice and he said "don't snore and show your boobs more". Ha!  If only we life could be as simple for women as it is for men.
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42 comments:

  1. Living on Cloud NineFebruary 8, 2017 at 5:29 AM

    Bha ha ha, show your boobs more...what a riot, he and Mr. Nine would get along great!!! Sweet kisses and notes are the BEST!!! And so are you! Keith better count his lucky stars to have you!!

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  2. Hahaha! I'm dying at your husband's advice! I think all men must be the same and it must now matter how long you've been married ;) I love your advice--especially the one about sending messages. Dustin leaves for work before I wake up, and sometimes I wake up to sweet notes left for me on the kitchen counter.

    MeetTheShaneyfelts

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  3. I love Keith's advice!!but how sweet is your advice?!

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  4. Baha ha ha! Keiths advice is hilarious and pretty spot on too. I love that you added not to waste fun. That is SO good and a reminder I need all too often.

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  5. I had to laugh at what Keith said because my husband would say the exact same thing. I love this post. You bring up some great tips and I love the sending sweet messages. Brandon always texts me something sweet right as I am getting to work and it always brings a smile to my face. Small gestures like that are simply the best. Have a great day!

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  6. Love this and love ya'll! Thanks for sharing! Have a great day lovely! xo

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  7. Oh my goodness! I wasn't prepared for Keith's comment at the end! That was awesome (and SO Keith!). Great advice, friend! Happy to say that we've taken so many of these and put them into practice. Relationships are definitely intentional - you can't just put them on cruise and expect everything to be peachy!

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  8. Save it for Jesus - great advice!! I struggle with saying exactly what I'm thinking - thank you for the reminder!

    Whitney @ Come Home For Comfort

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  9. Lol Keith's comment cracks me up! Great tips!

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  10. Keith and Wayne are brothers. They were just separated at birth. You spent too much time on the love train in Vegas, honey!

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  11. Loved your husband's comment - men are all the same, aren't they? Such great advice and good reminders.

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  12. Hahahaha, Keith is a hoot! The boob comment is exactly something that Brian would say! I just love this acrostic! Such a great way to remember everything!

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  13. Oh how funny! Keith and Tony are so alike! hahaha! We are rekindling our empty nest life! Taylor moved into her first grown up apartment yesterday and we are back to just being us 2. Life is good. My kids are self sufficient and I can't wait to spend a few days next week over at our beach house! Golf, beach walks and some fun dinners are just what the doctor ordered!

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  14. Such great advice Shelly. I really need to go on more dates with my hubby. Since our kids got older we usually take them everywhere with us! Crazy but soon we'll be empty nesters and we'll begin a new phase. And I think Keith gave great advice, nice job representing the husbands!

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  15. James would say the exact same thing but I don't snore, I think he would ask instead that I bring home more junk food.

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  16. LOL my husband would have the same response. It's just a different way of thinking. xo ~ Megan

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  17. This is just perfect! Great advice. :)

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  18. Carrie @ Curly Crafty MomFebruary 9, 2017 at 9:29 AM

    Haha, love your husband's advice! I love the 'Leave it to Jesus' and no record if wrongs.

    Carrie
    curlycraftymom.com

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  19. Ha, men! Too funny. All great advice - so true about "don't waste fun" and just let it go.

    Lisa
    Daily Style Finds

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  20. Erica Flatt StaffordFebruary 9, 2017 at 12:25 PM

    I LOVE this post so much! Wonderful advice for any stage of marriage!

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  21. This is great! My husband is so good about texting me especially when he is traveling and telling me he loves me. It's always a bright spot in my day! Great advice!

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  22. Congratulations! That is so sweet!! = ) And I love the advice. It can definitely get tough!

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  23. It really is just all those little things that can keep the love alive!

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  24. Thank you Erica! Looks like we have lots in common!

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  25. I always get so excited about little hand written notes....probably because they are hard to come by. Keith is pretty simple...so when he actually writes down his feelings I know how much it really meant! And i may be guilty of carrying them around in my wallet. :) Hope you have an amazing Valentines with your love.

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  26. They really are just the simplest....I don't know why I try so hard sometimes. haha

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  27. Sarita...there is definitely a reason God made us all so different! Hope you have a beautiful valentines day with your loves.

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  28. It really is all the little small stuff that adds up to be so much more than those big "showy" things.

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  29. I think I'm finally getting this down Beth....the no fun wasting not the boob flashing. :)

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  30. Happy to have you guys along side us! It's been a blessing to know you guys support our marriage.

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  31. Oh girl....I definitely have an untamed tongue!! Eek

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  32. They really are Lana...and much simpler than we give them credit for!

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  33. He's definitely honest Lindsay! Hope you have a sweet Valentines day with your loves!

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  34. I think we have done just the opposite Kellyann...it's so easy now to just grab a pizza for the kids and let them hang while we head for a date!

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  35. Ugh...I don't think I snore but he definitely does and reminds me often that I do too. :)

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  36. Hey...I'm not going to complain Megan....at least he still loves the way I look after all these babies!

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  37. It truly is! Its really great when you see your kids living their lives and being happy <3

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